I need some advice for my first build

Hello everyone

So I’m trying to build a home server, and I’m kinda hesitant about so many things,and all the option i have.
I live in Portugal, and its almost impossible to find some good deals, there is prices higher than sometimes new products…

Some important factors for me are :

  • Power consumption - I would like some low energy ( dont we all?)
  • I dont mind using old hardware
  • Being quiet would be good i would say
  • I need to acess it from outside of my current house/network
  • I would like to know if it is possible to manage outside of my house in case of crash? (IPMI? / pikvm?/, noob question for real)

what i plan to use it is:

  1. Nextcloud

  2. As a NAS

  3. Plex media server or Jellyfin ( 1 at 4k or 2 at 1080p)

  4. Photoprism or similar to susbtitute google photos

  5. Some home assistant in the future

  6. As a temporary game server (minecraft/csgo/rust) (pterodactyl??)

  7. Torrenting (I will be moving to germany and my server will stay in my home country since laws in germany are harsh, so i can later transfer to my pc

    I dont want it to be overkill , but having margin to do more things is good. I am pretty new to this, and while reading a lot helps , i am a more " learn by doing" person.
    I was looking for xeon E3 the L version with low tdp, but i dont know if it would be good over more modern hardware.
    I have an option to buy : E3-1230 V3, Board MSI H87-G43 Mate, 16GB SKHynix DDR3 for 130 euros, so more Power supply,case, fans,and an ssd it would be less than 200euros,It will have too maybe 3HDD 3tb each. Wich seems good, but i dont know if it checks most of the boxes.
    I was thinking maybe add an SAS controller later? since Used SAS drives are really cheap, is it worth it?

What would you guys sugest me? Thank you very much for your time and sorry for this newbie questions.

All tips are welcome!

Not being familiar with parts availability in your region, I’d agree H87 would be suitable. PCIe slots are limited; HBA would occupy one. IPMI can be handy, but you’d still need your router and internet connection to be up in order to reach the IPMI. You can setup wireguard or similar VPN for remote access. It sounds like Plex will be transcoding, so best to offload it to a separate SFF desktop with a 7th gen or later CPU with iGPU (e.g., HP 290, HP S01). Your primary heavy workloads would be the game servers and Plex (if not offloaded to a QSV box).